tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785239994537240122.post2969738219457939824..comments2023-05-18T03:51:24.914-04:00Comments on Clark Chatter: Learned Something New TodayGingerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13910562548296620853noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785239994537240122.post-65656044087479509602009-04-09T09:47:00.000-04:002009-04-09T09:47:00.000-04:00Yes, we do ask them about Liberia frequently. We w...Yes, we do ask them about Liberia frequently. We want them to know that we haven't forgotten their heritage and that they are free to talk about it as much as they want (which is usually a lot once we get them going). ;)<BR/>In your situation, I would talk to my son about his past based on his current age (what he is able to handle), not based on how young he was at the time of adoption. In my humble opinion, he's still not old enough to handle the truth that it isn't really the fault of the drugs.Gingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10657460163379486396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785239994537240122.post-88093493563964854472009-04-08T23:16:00.000-04:002009-04-08T23:16:00.000-04:00Do you go out of your way to ASK your Liberians ab...Do you go out of your way to ASK your Liberians about their life in Africa? Daniel was too young to remember anything, I know. <BR/><BR/>My eldest adoptee was four when he came to me in foster care. He had been physically abused. He is an exceptional kid and I have never had issues with him being mean to others, or being excessively afraid, or ANYTHING! <BR/><BR/>We did not speak very much about what he lived through, besides that his mother loved him, but couldn't take care of him and his brother and sister because she used drugs. We always blamed the drugs, not her. <BR/><BR/>He seems to have forgotten much of the mess he lived in (he's 11). Once in a while he will mention something, though, as a memory is triggered. Just a couple of days ago, we drove past a tattoo parlor and he remembered that he'd been in one once and described (accurately) how a tattoo was done. <BR/><BR/>I just wonder about your feelings. Would you bring it all up with a young adoptee and cement it in their memory or let it go and hope it doesn't cause problems later?Mommaofmanyhttp://www.homeschoolblogger.com/mommaofmanynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785239994537240122.post-17512267059481497652009-04-06T23:49:00.000-04:002009-04-06T23:49:00.000-04:00Glad that you got to the root of the issue. :) I'm...Glad that you got to the root of the issue. :) I'm sure it's a relief to know WHY Isaac was doing what he was doing. :)musicmommy3https://www.blogger.com/profile/05737575036149219677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7785239994537240122.post-62189023352502285812009-04-06T22:39:00.000-04:002009-04-06T22:39:00.000-04:00Ginger, Good post and it makes sense. We adopted o...Ginger, <BR/><BR/>Good post and it makes sense. We adopted our two Liberians a year apart and the older one hates to see the younger one disciplined even though they are not even bio siblings. I think you hit it on the nail that they don't understand the biblical view of discipline since they have never seen it before and it probably seems mean to them. I'm going to have that same discussion with my son... :) Sounds like you had a good conclusion to all this.Sherriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16781789661984047943noreply@blogger.com