Monday, October 4, 2010

Our Marriage Secret


I'm in love with Kyle Clark. And Kyle's in love with me. And it's not because he's a perfect husband. Kyle is good-looking, and a hard worker, and he loves my kids. But it's all that he isn't that holds our marriage together.
Our marriage secret is knowing that we don't deserve each other.
I am a sinner with sinful thoughts and a selfish heart. And so is my husband.
In the same way that I don't deserve the love and grace of my Savior, I don't deserve the love and forgiveness of my husband. But he does love me and he daily forgives my selfishness.
Because he's also a sinner.
I can forgive my husband his flaws and shortcomings because I know that I am also flawed. I can extend grace for his failings because I have been forgiven of all of my sins. I don't deserve that. None of us do.

You have also been shown grace. When we understand what we have been given and what we have been saved from, it is easy to forgive and show grace to our spouses.

It's when we forget all that we've been forgiven and all that we truly deserve, that we develop entitlement- thinking that we deserve better. We don't.

Our spouses are there to conform us into the image of Christ.

That's the point of marriage.

Thursday, September 30, 2010

Wednesday, September 29, 2010

How to Raise Boys Who Read

How to Raise Boys Who Read
Hint: Not with gross-out books and video-game bribes.
By THOMAS SPENCE

When I was a young boy, America's elite schools and universities were almost entirely reserved for males. That seems incredible now, in an era when headlines suggest that boys are largely unfit for the classroom. In particular, they can't read.

According to a recent report from the Center on Education Policy, for example, substantially more boys than girls score below the proficiency level on the annual National Assessment of Educational Progress reading test.

The good news is that influential people have noticed this problem. The bad news is that many of them have perfectly awful ideas for solving it.

Everyone agrees that if boys don't read well, it's because they don't read enough.

But why don't they read?

A considerable number of teachers and librarians believe that boys are simply bored by the "stuffy" literature they encounter in school. According to a revealing Associated Press story in July these experts insist that we must "meet them where they are"—that is, pander to boys' untutored tastes.

For elementary- and middle-school boys, that means "books that exploit [their] love of bodily functions and gross-out humor." AP reported that one school librarian treats her pupils to "grossology" parties. "Just get 'em reading," she counsels cheerily. "Worry about what they're reading later."

Education was once understood as training for freedom. Not merely the transmission of information, education entailed the formation of manners and taste. Aristotle thought we should be raised "so as both to delight in and to be pained by the things that we ought; this is the right education."

"Plato before him," writes C. S. Lewis, "had said the same. The little human animal will not at first have the right responses. It must be trained to feel pleasure, liking, disgust, and hatred at those things which really are pleasant, likeable, disgusting, and hateful."

This kind of training goes against the grain, and who has time for that? How much easier to meet children where they are.

One obvious problem with the SweetFarts philosophy of education is that it is more suited to producing a generation of barbarians and morons than to raising the sort of men who make good husbands, fathers and professionals. If you keep meeting a boy where he is, he doesn't go very far.

So why won't boys read?

The appearance of the boy-girl literacy gap happens to coincide with the proliferation of video games and other electronic forms of entertainment over the last decade or two. Boys spend far more time "plugged in" than girls do. Could the reading gap have more to do with competition for boys' attention than with their supposed inability to focus on anything other than outhouse humor?

The secret to raising boys who read, I submit, is pretty simple—keep electronic media, especially video games and recreational Internet, under control (that is to say, almost completely absent). Then fill your shelves with good books.

Most importantly, a boy raised on great literature is more likely to grow up to think, to speak, and to write like a civilized man. Whom would you prefer to have shaped the boyhood imagination of your daughter's husband—Raymond Bean or Robert Louis Stevenson?

I offer a final piece of evidence that is perhaps unanswerable:


There is no literacy gap between home-schooled boys and girls.


How many of these families, do you suppose, have thrown grossology parties?


Monday, September 27, 2010

Baby's First Cold

Recently, Julia got over her first cold. She developed a low grade fever and a runny nose when she was cutting her top teeth, but it turned into a cold.
Here's what I did:

  • I upped my Vitamin C intake to 6000 mg daily.
  • I began taking one GSE tablet daily.
  • I gave Julia a single drop of GSE each morning in her breakfast.
  • I nursed her twice as often so she could get more nutrition from me.
  • I gave her Horehound Extract to prevent it from turning into an ear infection.
She got over it in less than a week.

Friday, September 24, 2010

When Babies Meet

One of my best friends, Gretchen, came over yesterday for a playdate. Her Amelia and my Julia are 5 days apart. We were due on the same day. I won.
Amelia and Julia only played together for about 15 minutes before we put them both down for their morning nap. They really got to know each other well in that short span of time. Allow me to interpret for you.

Is there something next to me? Something squishy? I'm afraid to look!

Whoa! Where'd she come from? And who in the world is she? She doesn't look like my siblings. And why is she smiling like that?

Oh, she's another baby! She's kinda cute! I wonder if I can trust her.

Well this is awkward. She's putting my face in her mouth! Oh my, she's grabbing me. Mama, she's grabbing me! Mama, that huuuuuuuurrrrrrrrtttts! Waaaaaahhhhhhh!

It took me a few minutes to console her after this baby brawl, but she was soon interested in Amelia again.

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

Julia Update - 8 months

Guess what Julia's been doing?

Thunder Thighs has just started eating solids this month and we all fight over who gets to feed her. I told the kids that her skin would turn orange if we fed her just orange vegetables. I think we're now doing an experiment to see how long it takes to make an orange baby.

I just found this cute walker on the curb. Someone's baby outgrew it and they were tossing it. I oxycleaned the thing and it's as good as new. I love free!!

And Julia loves going for a drive around the living room and kitchen. She's a terrible driver, but she gets where she wants to go.

You'll be happy to know I'm now over missing her newborn days. I'm having fun just enjoying her present stage. Experience tells me that it will stay fun for the next 12 years at least.