Someone recently asked: With your transracial family, what kind of comments do you have to deal with?
The truth is, we almost never get racial comments. At least not bad ones. But last week when the four big kids were at a library event, Elena mentioned something about her sister. The adult she was talking to asked who her sister was. When Elena pointed to Maya, the lady said: She can't be your sister, she's black!
We all got a big kick out of that one. Elena thought it would be funny next time to reply: "Haven't you ever heard of adoption?" We thought it might be better to say something more gracious, though.
When we are all out together, a lot of people ask if I run an in-home daycare. The kids think it's really funny.
Most of the time, people just say silly things. But every once in awhile, people really do surprise me and say something truly shocking.
When we put in a lot of landscaping recently, someone said: "Now it's looks like white people live here!" Um, we were a bit dumbfounded by that one. Did she know she said that aloud?!?