If I had a nickel for every time somebody told me: "That's great that you can adopt/homeschool/homebirth/have a bunch of kids. I'd love to do that, but my husband won't go for it," I'd have a big pile of nickels!
It's worth it to submit to your husband's leadership. God will be glorified. This doesn't mean you can't respectfully (with emphasis on "respectfully") talk to him about your convictions. But you are not your husband's Holy Spirit!
When we try to coerce our hubbies into doing something they don't want to do, we show God that we don't truly trust Him. Prayer is more powerful than our words.
I have wanted to adopt since I was a child. Kyle has always said: If we can't have children, we can adopt.
I prayed. Not for God to change Kyle's heart, but for God to do what He wanted to in our family.
It was Kyle's decision to pursue adoption. To God's glory!
And then a year or two after the adoption when I was ready to add to our family again, Kyle was adamant that we were done!
I prayed. I wanted God to change Kyle's heart, but I prayed that God would do what He wanted to in our family. I needed to learn to be content.
Guess whose decision it was to try to conceive again? Kyle's. To God's glory!
Follow your man's lead and put your trust in God.
HE is faithful!